Negotiation Success is in the Planning

The drama and theatrics one sees during conflict and confrontations easily leads one to believe that negotiation success lies in persuasiveness, eloquence, and clever maneuvering. What good court room drama would be without these critical factors for entertainment? While these elements may be the enjoyable part for some negotiators, and certainly are the entertaining portions for observers, they are not the keys to negotiation success.

This next quote was so important in “Essentials of Negotiation” by Lewicki, Saunders, Barry, and Minton that the authors italicized it. I point this out because I want you to pay attention to this closely, “The foundation for success in negotiation is not in the game playing or the dramatics. The dominant force for success in negotiation is in the planning that takes place prior to the dialogue.” Yes, the tactics used during negotiations are important, and success is also influenced by how you react to the other side and implement your own negotiation strategy. However, the foundation for success is preparation.

There are many ways one can prepare for negotiation, and no one way will be perfect for everyone. By sharing different strategies, I hope you can absorb what is useful for your negotiation style and decide what planning steps are needed for the negotiations you partake in.

In the “Essentials of Negotiation” the authors set forth ten areas to focus on during effective planning for both distributive and integrative negotiations. I want to briefly share and comment on the ten areas for you to consider:

1. Defining the Issues. Analyze the overall situation and define the issues to be discussed. The more detailed, the better.

2. Assembling the Issues and Defining the Bargaining Mix. Assemble the issues that have been defined into a comprehensive list. The combination of lists from each side of the negotiation determines the bargaining mix. Large bargaining mixes allow for many possible components and arrangements for settlement. However, large bargaining mixes can also lengthen negotiations because of the many possible combinations to consider. Therefore, the issues must be prioritized.

3. Defining Your Interests. After you have defined the issues, you should define the underlying interests and needs. Remember, positions are what a negotiator wants. Interests are why you want them. Asking “why” questions will help define interests.

4. Knowing Your Limits and Alternatives. Limits are the point where you stop the negotiation rather than continue. Settlements beyond this point are not acceptable. You need to know your walkaway point. Alternatives are other deals you could achieve and still meet your needs. The better alternatives you have, the more power you have during negotiations.

5. Setting Targets and Openings. The target point is where you realistically expect to achieve a settlement. You can determine your target by asking what outcome you would be comfortable with, or at what point would you be satisfied. The opening bid or asking price usually represents the best deal you can hope to achieve. One must be cautious in inflating opening bids to the point where they become self-defeating because they are too unrealistic.

6. Assessing My Constituents. When negotiating in a professional context, there are most likely many constituents to the negotiation. Things to consider include the direct actors, the opposite actors, indirect actors, interested observers, and environmental factors.

7. Analyzing the Other Party. Meeting with the other side allows you to learn what issues are important to them. Things to consider include their current resources, interests, and needs. In addition, consider their objectives, alternatives, negotiation style, authority, and likely strategy and tactics.

8. What Strategy Do I want to Pursue? Most likely you are always determining your strategy, and have been all along the planning stages. However, remember not to confuse strategy with tactics. Determine if your engagement strategy will be Competition (Distributive Bargaining), Collaboration (Integrative Negotiation), or Accommodative Negotiation.

9. How Will I Present the Issues to the Other Party? You should present your case clearly and provide ample supporting facts and arguments. You will also want to refute the other party’s arguments with your own counterarguments. There are many ways to do this, and during your preparation you should determine how best to present your issues.

10. What Protocol Needs to Be Followed in This Negotiation? The elements of protocol or process that should be considered include the agenda, the location of the negotiation, the time period of negotiation, other parties who may be involved in the negotiation, what might be done if the negotiation fails, and how will the parties keep track of what is agreed to? In most cases, it is best to discuss the procedural issues before the major substantive issues are raised.

There are many different planning templates. Each emphasizes different elements in different sequences. These ten areas represent what the authors of “Essentials of Negotiation” believe to be the most important steps in the planning process. There is more to each of these areas than I had space to describe in this column. However, if you consider each of these ten areas during your planning, you will be well prepared for the challenges you will face during negotiations.

Presentation Jitters? How to Overcome the Fear of Speaking

Speaking in public is truly scary for many people. I get it. What I don’t get, though, is how truly terrifying (even paralyzing) it can be for millions of people around the world. Take a minute and look up the word “glossophobia”–severe fear of public speaking.

How Does Fear Show Up?

Those who suffer from this say that when speaking (or even at the thought of speaking in front of a group) they experience:

• Their mouth dries up

• Their voice begins shaking uncontrollably

• Their body begins trembling

• They begin sweating, shaking and feeling their heart racing

We’ve all heard that public speaking is the number one fear of people everywhere (above the fear of dying). Seinfeld even commented on this in one of his episodes where he said something like, “If that’s true then most people would rather be in the casket than giving the eulogy!”

Why is presenting to a group utterly terrifying for some? In seminars, university classes and individual coaching sessions I ask people to explain exactly what scares them the most about public speaking.

Why Be Afraid?

Here are just some of the most common confessions:

• I’ll sound like I don’t know what I’m talking about

• I’ll look stupid

• I won’t be able to answer questions

• I’ll freeze up and forget what I’m supposed to say

• I’ll be boring

For a great little (fictional) view of what this looks like, take a look at Don Knotts in the classic movie: Ghost and Mr. Chicken.

Easy-To-Use Tips and Techniques

While there’s no magic cure for this very real fear, some simple steps can greatly diminish the trauma. Here are just a few tips to begin minimizing the fear and begin a journey where a person (or you) might even learn to enjoy public speaking:

1. Visualize success. Great athletes use this technique to imagine a perfect performance. Try this when preparing for your next presentation. Imagine a flawless presentation, “see” the audience completely engaged in your message… they’re smiling, nodding and enjoying your message!

2. Quiet your mind. Stop the chatter–especially the negative self-talk. Take deep breaths. Try simple meditation techniques to help you focus on your message.

3. Know your audience. Be sure to know as much as you can about who they are, what they already know about your topic and why they’ll be attending.

4. Be the expert! Nothing can boost your confidence like knowing your stuff! Do your homework. Research your topic and be fully prepared.

5. Practice, practice, practice. After you finish practicing, practice some more! Practice out loud, standing (if that’s your setting) and go through your presentation in its entirety.

6. Watch yourself on video. It’s easy to hit the record button on you smart phone or tablet. Be sure to take advantage of this easy technology so you’ll see yourself–what you like, what you don’t like and what you can work on… immediately.

7. Work with a coach, take a class, study presentation skills. If you want to boost your confidence with a skill that will be required throughout your career, consider finding a resource to help you get better fast.

Most of all, enjoy the journey. I promise you with effort, courage and hard work you will be amazed at how you can improve.

Being Honest With Your Dentist About Your Medical Past and Present

You do your best to take care of your teeth and your gums, but you still need the help and services of a qualified dentist. Your dentist performs routine exams on your mouth and takes x-rays to ensure that your teeth and gums are healthy. If a problem is found, he will discuss treatment options with you. Your dental provider offers you preventative measures to keep your teeth not just looking their best, but remaining in an ideal state of health.

Regular check-ups are important for your oral health, as are frequent cleanings done by a dental hygienist. When you first begin going to a new dental office, you will be required to fill out forms pertaining to your medical history. This includes any health issues you suffer from, any surgeries you have had, and any medications you are on. You also need to include any known allergies that you have. Your file needs to include everything that is pertinent to your medical past, as well as your present. Even such things as mineral or vitamin supplements that you are taking need to be noted down.

You may wonder why the dentist has to know about a medical problem that is not related to your mouth. The reason for this is because your whole body is connected when it comes to your health woes. It is possible that a problem that you have in one area of your body could bring about symptoms in your mouth. For instance, too much stress can lead to a dry mouth. There are certain medications that can also cause a person’s mouth to produce less saliva.

It is essential that you are honest with your dental practitioner about your medical history. Even if something seems small and insignificant to you, it still needs to go into your file because your dentist may need this information for future reference.

The same goes for your lifestyle choices. If you smoke, drink, or use recreational drugs, this information is relevant to your health and well-being. Be honest about how much you indulge in these habits. Your dental provider is not there to chastise you but to make sure that he has all of the information at his disposal to take care of your oral health needs. To have healthy teeth and gums, he needs to know as much as he can about how healthy you are and how you live your life. It can be detrimental to your health to tell lies about your health.

Disclose to the tooth doctor the names of the medications you are currently taking and the reasons for which you are taking them. Tell him what the daily doses for each are and how long you have been on them. If it is something you are taking on a temporary basis, let him know when you will be finished with it.